How to Confront the Leadership of a Church
- 1). Be humble and recognize that you also make mistakes. Before the confrontation, foster an attitude of love and a desire to help the person.
- 2). Pray for the right approach and the appropriate words to say. Ask for guidance about the best way to communicate with the leader, such as by phone or in person. In many situations, face-to-face confrontation is the best approach.
- 3). Gather factual evidence. Arrange to meet the leader in private. Begin with praise for the positive aspects of the leader's ministry. Point out the person's fault in love with gently presented scriptures. If the leader listens, you have won that person over, and a restorative process can begin.
- 4). If the leader will not listen, expect an expression of denial or disdain. After the meeting, look for two to three other people who have witnessed and have evidence of sinful behavior. Then go as a group to confront the leader again about his sin. If he still won't stop, take the problem to his superiors in the church.
- 5). Help the leader to stop sinning and set a time for restoration. Restoration may take months or years for habitual sins. It will take time for the church leader to reestablish a godly reputation. Ask the congregation to pray for restoration.
- 6). Review the biblical qualifications for a pastor, elder or church leader that are outlined in 1 Timothy 3 and Titus 1 to see if the leader is spiritually qualified and living a holy life before he is restored. Some characteristics to look for are good family management with obedient respectful children, devotion to spouse, unselfishness, self-control, balance in life management, patience and freedom from substance addictions, love of money and blame.
- 7). If the leader does not meet the biblical requirements after the restoration time period, remove him from ministry.