1. A Divorce Court is No Place for Emotion
Divorces are inherently emotional. As you are ending a relationship that you have invested a lot of your time and energy into, you may be tempted to express your anger, frustration, or stress during court proceedings. However, as a commonly used adage states, €Marriage is concerned only with love, divorce is concerned only with money.€ Whatever you do, you must keep your emotions in check. Divorce proceedings are, in effect, legal business negotiations. In order for you to receive the best divorce and custody terms for minimal impact to your standard of living, you must try to remain as impartial and business-like as possible. The alternative is to give the court reason to find you unfit to be the legal or residential guardian of the child. Find some other constructive outlet to relieve your stress and frustration when you are outside of the courtroom.
2. Start Researching and Building Your Team
Trying to survive your divorce on your own is like being cast out to sea and trying to swim to shore. You need the expert opinions of several key team members to give you direction and guidance to make sure you reach your goals safely. One of the best ways to find team members is to ask friends, family, or colleagues who have gone through the divorce process for referrals. Always double check their licensure and ask for references from family law offices you interview. While it may seem hiring help is a large and unnecessary expenditure of money, it is worth it to protect your long-term emotional and financial well-being.
3. Find a Matrimonial or Family Law Attorney
Get referrals for at least three different family law attorneys near your residence, and start collecting information on each. Try to find attorneys who devote at least 75% of their time to divorce and custody cases. Ask for their licensure information and any professional organizations to which they belong. Try to be as honest and open as possible during your initial interview, especially regarding any concerns you have about their qualifications and fees. Do your homework on each candidate. Call their references, and try to find information on past cases. Ultimately, you will want to go with an attorney that makes you feel at ease.
4. Find a Divorce Financial Planner
Many people find themselves in near-poverty on the closing end of a divorce. To prevent this from happening to you, hire a financial planner who has experience managing client portfolios during divorces. Your planner will be responsible for preparing affidavits and even analyzing and estimating the potential financial impact of any settlement option. Your planner will provide you with all the information you need to make the best decisions to protect your financial standing and provide for your children.
5. Find a Therapist or Counselor
As mentioned in the first tip, it is critical that you remain even-keeled during your divorce proceedings. However, divorce is inherently one of the most emotional times of a person's life. It is important that you not feel like you are alone during your divorce proceedings. Having a qualified therapist help you cope with and express your feelings will help you navigate the situation so that you can make the best decisions for your children. While divorce is never easy, you do not have to go it alone. With a top-notch support team you are guaranteed to settle on the best terms for you and your kids.