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How to Survive a Marriage Breakup

When you started the marriage journey, you expected it to be smooth and without potholes.
But, we all know that how we navigate through the many potholes will determine the success of the journey.
Now, you want to know how to survive a marriage breakup.
That is fine.
Divorce is like amputation; you may survive it, but it feels like there is less of you.
And it is worse if you did not want the divorce.
So, how can you survive a marriage breakup? By doing four things: Forgive yourself.
"I ...
am he who blots out your transgressions, for my own sake, and remembers your sins no more" (Isaiah 43: 25 NIV).
God forgives and forgets, and He will give you the grace to forgive yourself, too.
Forgive those who have hurt you.
Forgiveness is the one power you always have over anybody who hurts you.
So keep on forgiving, until the past no longer controls you.
Make forgiveness your fixed attitude! Only by forgiving and forgetting can you set it down and move on.
Take your time.
Do not make any big changes right now.
You are on an emotional roller coaster, vacillating between wanting your partner back and wanting your partner to suffer.
You are vulnerable to other people's comments and easily drawn toward anybody who pays you attention.
Slow down! Healthy people make healthy choices, so spend time reading God's Word, praying, seeking counsel, and allowing yourself to be made whole.
Start giving back.
"Your God is gracious and compassionate.
He will not turn his face from you if you return to him" (2 Chronicles 30: 9 NIV).
Realizing God has not turned His back on you, is what enables you to "comfort those in trouble with the comfort you have received from God" (2 Corinthians 1: 4 NIV).
When that happens you are becoming whole, your future is bright and your possibilities unlimited.
If you want to survive a marriage breakup, do not exclude God.
Trying to work it out using only your best judgment may not be the best way out.
And, most importantly, be careful of the advice you receive from people who may be cheating on their spouse or do not want to see you succeed in your marriage.

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