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Courtship - The Christian Point of View

Courtship is the time between engagement and marriage.
At this time the intended couples deal with a lot of issues that are paramount to their relationship.
Since these are two strange people trying to embark on a journey of no return as Christians, there arise the needs to figure out some vital issues and settle them to avoid regrets in the future.
Here the intended couples ask questions and make vital decisions.
I call this period "Spouse Hunting" and should be taken very serious; it is the foundation of any relationship.
It is better to end the relationship at courtship than to divorce after marriage.
As a Christian there should be absolute sincerity in this regards as the foundation of the would-be-marriage is based on the decisions drawn from the courtship.
Points such as the number of kids to be raised, kids gotten before this time, if any, failed marriage attempt, serious health issues, educational level, employment status, weak points, strengths and others should be tabled and dealt with.
It is a time of getting to understand who you are to spend the rest of your life with and therefore should not be done in haste.
Choosing the site for Courtship: This is very imperative to avoid immorality; it is advisable for intended couples to meet in open places.
The sitting rooms of married Christian friends, Public Parks and church buildings are all suitable for this purpose.
It should be a place where other people are in view.
Never meet in lonely places as this may give room to temptation and it can lead to premarital sex.
Do not say or think that you are spiritually strong and cannot fall.
The bible says "Wherefore let him that thinketh he standeth take heed lest he fall" (1 Corinthians chapter 10 verses 12.
) Quotation is taken from the King James Version of the Holy Bible.
In Christianity sex before marriage is a sin.
The motive behind your actions during courtship matters a lot.
Always ask yourself the reason behind your actions.
Is it to the glory of God or for some selfish purposes? The assistance you offer during the courtship, is it as a bait to win your would-be spouse over? Every act of assistance should be from pure purposes.
Remember holiness without which no man shall see the Lord.
Always start your discussions with prayer and end up with prayer.
Courtship Period: This is one topic too many Christians have been debating upon and I want to contribute to it.
First of all it should take the maturity of the intended couples to decide how long their courting should last.
Since courtship is very important and vital issues are to be sorted out, it should not, as a matter of fact, be done in haste.
I suggest a period of six (6) months to one (1) year.
Remember that a relationship terminated at courtship carries no penalty at all.
But God hates putting away (divorce) after you have gotten married.
Take your time to figure things out at this point.
I don't think it is right for church marriage committees or any other committee to set courtship period at the time frame of two years and above.
Prolonged courtship is not spiritually healthy.
Intended couples in this case are prone to serious temptations due to curiosity.
However, if the intended couples see the need to extend their courtship period, they are in the best place to do so.

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