Do You Ejaculate Too Early? Learn Which Methods Will Allow You Total Control Over Your Ejaculation!
If you can't last long enough for her to have an orgasm, you will either leave her with a lot of pent up frustration or you will have to satisfy her in other ways, such as using your tongue or your fingers.
While these methods are a decent backup, most women will tell you that the best orgasms they will ever have are the ones that are induced by intercourse alone.
It takes the typical woman between 15 and 20 minutes of active sexual intercourse to reach orgasm.
Many guys can only last between 5 and 10 minutes, and some unfortunate souls are apt to climax even earlier than that.
20 minutes MINIMUM is the duration of active thrusting you should aim for to be a confident, satisfying lover.
If you aren't confident you can last that long EVERY time, you should take steps immediately to gain control over your own climax and be able to last as long as she needs you to every time.
Listed below are some of the more common methods that men use to stop early ejaculation, along with an explanation as to whether or not it is an effective method that you should use to become a better lover.
Distraction methods, such as thinking about baseball.
We've all heard of these methods.
While you're thrusting, you concentrate in your mind on something completely non-sexual, such as baseball, and this is supposed to keep you from getting too excited and climaxing too early.
The problem is that this does nothing to treat any of the underlying causes of premature ejaculation, and on top of that, what is the point of having sex - which is meant to provide pleasure - if you are trying in your mind to minimize your pleasure.
Also, using this method will impair the bond that sex is supposed to create between you and your partner, because it will be very obvious to her that you have mentally "checked out.
Wearing two condoms (a.
The idea behind this method is that two layers of latex covering your penis will desensitize it and keep you from reaching orgasm too quickly.
There are several problems with this method.
One, if you get used to having sex with two condoms covering your penis, you will find that your premature ejaculation problem actually WORSENS if you ever try to have sex with one or zero condoms.
At some point, if you're in a trusting, monogamous relationship, you will probably want to have sex without condoms.
The other problem is that if you are using condoms for pregnancy and/or STD prevention, "double bagging" makes them much LESS effective because the latex rubs against each other and can cause tears.
Naturally retraining your body to control your ejaculation.
This involves several steps.
The first is strengthening your pelvic floor so that those muscles do not contract involuntarily during intercourse.
When you do this, you will be able to climax when you (and she) are ready, not when the sensations become too intense.
The second is conditioning your mind to subconsciously understand that sex is meant to be a marathon, not a sprint.
Guys who have for years rushed through masturbation especially need to retrain their minds.
Natural methods are by far the most effective way to cure premature ejaculation, because they actually address the root cause, not just put a band-aid on the symptoms.